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Save The Marriage

Save The Marrigae is a famous book written by Lee H Baucom. The book provides detailed insights and is a step by step guide on What You Need to Do to save the marriage.

Save the MarriageFor most couples, once their marriage has gotten to the brink of divorce, it will be a very big challenge to save the marriage. That’s not to say that it’s impossible, but the resentments and anger have built up to the point that a lot of couples in this situation can’t hardly be in the same room together, let alone talk things out and work on solutions.

For this reason, it’s usually best to find a marriage therapist our counselor to help you pull your marriage back from the precipice. Here are some things to keep in mind when you start looking around for a professional to help you solve your marriage issues:

1. It’s important that you find someone who has similar ideals to your own. For example, for most couples it isn’t about staying together at all costs, but rather finding a way to make things good between the two of you again… or ending the marriage. Some counselors will come from a position of trying to keep the marriage intact at all costs, even if one or both of the spouses aren’t happy or fulfilled. Find a counselor who can help you accomplish your goals, not theirs.

2. A good counselor will be totally unbiased. You absolutely don’t need someone who is going to take sides, even subtly. You need someone who will tell you both the ugly truth because that is the only way you can work things out.

3. Make sure you’re clear on their fee schedule and whether or not they will accept your insurance, if you have it. Counseling will take time, this is by no means a quick fix. You have to be willing to make this investment in your relationship.

If the two of you are willing to work together, and with the help of a counselor, it is possible for you to save the marriage. Just keep an open mind and be willing to try.

Download Save The Marriage Book here for a detailed guide on how to save your marriage.

Marriage Retreat

Christian Marriage retreats and marriage counseling, Can They Save My Marriage?

Marriage retreats are seminars that teach couples better ways of communicating with each other. They can be based on certain religions or secular in nature. They can last for a week or for a few hours, there are a lot of different types of retreats all over the country. The point is that this can be an effective way for you and your spouse to learn to work on the issues in your marriage by honestly communicating with each other.

The sad truth is that by the time most people get to the point of considering a retreat, or any type of counseling, there is a lot of built up anger and resentment. More often than not the only ‘communicating’ the couple does is to scream at each other and all semblance of a loving healthy relationship has completely disappeared. If your marriage is in trouble, the sooner you address the issues the greater the likelihood you’ll be able to improve your relationship.

While it might be difficult for the two of you to learn new, and more effective, ways to communicate, it’s never impossible. As long as both of you are completely committed to making these changes you can do it. A good retreat will help. Just find the format that fits you and your lifestyle. You can start with your church. If they don’t host a retreat they can likely recommend one.

It’s never too late to try and save your marriage, though the sooner you start the easier it will be. Just try to find good marriage retreats and give it a chance to work and you may be pleasantly surprised at the positive changes you see in your marriage. At this point, you have nothing to lose and a lot to gain. Go for it.

Recommended Reading: “Save The Marriage” Book

Marriage Guidance

Marriage guidance, Where Should I Look?

When it comes to finding someone to help you through the minefield that your marriage has become, you do have a lot of choices. Marriage guidance can be found in many different places. The most important thing is that you trust the people who you are asking for advice. It can cause more harm than good if you choose to follow bad advice. Pick the source of your guidance very carefully.

If you’re not worried about friends and family knowing that your marriage is in trouble, you can always ask them for a referral. Personal referrals are often best if you can get them from someone you know has similar likes and dislikes as you do. When you find a counselor you will be working very closely with them so it’s very important that you trust and like them and that you feel comfortable with them.

The next place you can look to find a counselor is at your church. Your priest or pastor may be able to provide counseling for you or if not, they can likely make some recommendations.

Of course, you can always just look through the phone book if all else fails. This is a very hit or miss method though so you may want to set up and appointment with a few of them to see who you feel most comfortable with before you commit to any of them.

You can also use some self help books (see save the marriage from divorce) and courses. There are many of them around and again, it’s important for you to find the style that suits you and your needs.

It doesn’t matter what type of marriage guidance you use, counselors, clergy, friends or books, just being willing to take some steps to make your marriage better is a huge step in the right direction. Good luck.

Getting Back With Your Ex

Getting back with your ex, Want to Know How?

After having gone through a breakup it’s common to start having second thoughts about ending the relationship. If this describes you and you’re thinking that the two of you should get back together, you may want some advice on getting back with your ex. Without good advice to follow you could do something that will push them away from you for good.

For the most part, the way you go about reconnecting with your ex will depend on what caused the breakup in the first place. For example, if the two of you broke up because you cheated, it’s going to be very difficult to get your ex to ever trust you (and risk getting hurt like that) again. If your breakup was for more subtle reasons you’ll have a better chance of making things work if you are able to figure out the core problems and work to make some much needed changes.

No matter what caused the breakup your first step should be to leave your ex alone and spend some time on you. Try to improve the person you are so that no matter what happens with your ex you’ll be a better partner in your relationships. If you get mad too often, or if you’re condescending and mocking, etc, these are the issues you need to take time to recognize and change.

Once you’re on the path to becoming a better person you should call your ex and ask them to meet you. Don’t talk about a reconciliation just keep it casual and friendly. After a while of hanging out together they should be able to see the changes in you. Hopefully if they do see changes they’ll be very receptive to giving things another try.

I hope I’ve given you some ideas of how to start getting back with your ex. Please don’t make the mistake of thinking it will happen overnight or that it won’t take some effort on your part. If you and your ex don’t figure out the problems that caused the breakup in the first place you’ll never have a good relationship even if you do get back together.

Save Marriage from Divorce

How You Can save marriage from divorce?

Sometimes it can almost feel like you’ve been dreaming and all of a sudden you wake up and your marriage is a shambles. Save the Marriage If you find yourself in this situation and your marriage is hanging by a thread you’re probably wondering what you can do, if anything, to save marriage from divorce. It is the right thing to do than having a broken marriage. You’ll be happy to know that many couples have been in just such a place and have managed to save their marriage and even make it better. If you and your spouse are going to be able to do that too, you have to do a few things first.

1. The very first thing that the two of you need to decide is if you want to save the marriage. It won’t work if one of you wants to work on it and one of you doesn’t. Unless you both are in complete agreement there is no way you can have a good marriage. Sure, you might not get divorced, but you’ll never be truly happy in a relationship that one person doesn’t want to be in.

2. Next you need to carefully analyze the issues in your marriage and figure out how best to resolve them. This is a hard thing to do because both of you will have to be willing to stop pointing fingers at each other and accept your own blame for your marital troubles.

3. Now you’ll have to find a way to solve those issues. Again, this will take some time since more than likely the issues and resentments have built up over a period of time and will take some time to get past.

If you and your spouse can make a commitment to these steps you’ll have a real chance to save marriage from divorce. If you both want to work on it you may even want to find a qualified counselor to help you along the way. Good luck.
For a more step by step guide on saving your marriage from divorce, I suggest you to read the famous Save The Marriage Book.

Marriage Breakup

Just had a marriage breakup, What Now?

The ending of a marriage is one of the great traumas in life. It can be second only to the death of a loved one when it comes to the emotional stress it causes. The good news is that there are some things you can do after a marriage breakup, that will help you get through the process a little more quickly, with less pain, and be able to move on without a ton of emotional baggage.

Here are some things you should consider:

1. Lean on your friends and family, that’s what they’re there for. They love you and will help you during this time, let them. There is no time limit to how long it will take you to get over the worst of your pain, so steer clear of anyone who tries to tell you it’s time for you to ‘get back out there’. They may be well meaning, but they aren’t helping.

2. Marriage Counselor: If you don’t seem to be making any progress at all after several months you should consider seeing a counselor. They can help you sort out all that you’re feeling and provide you with tools to dealing with it.

3. Use this ‘recovery time’ as a way to improve yourself. Not that there is anything wrong with you but we all have things we’d like to do or be. If you’ve always wanted to learn a foreign language, go for it. Join a gym, travel, etc. The point is that after a relationship falls apart, it’s a good time to reevaluate things and make any changes you’ve been meaning to make.

It’s not easy coping with a marriage breakup. Just keep your head held high and lean on the people in your life who love you. You can make it through and even though it may seem impossible, you’ll find happiness again.