Divorce counseling can help You Get Through the Tough times in Your Marriage.
When it comes to counselors and marriage retreats most people think in terms of those professionals that help a couple work through their problems so they can stay together. But a new concept is gaining in popularity: divorce counseling. This is when you let a professional help guide you through all the myriad of emotions you face when you are ending your marriage. This type of counseling can help enormously by helping people wade through their conflicting emotions more quickly so that they can move on to the next stage of their life with as little baggage as possible.
Remember, when you are looking for a counselor that it is just like any other profession and some will be better than others. Take your time to find a counselor who you like and feel comfortable with.
Here are a few things you can keep in mind when you search for a counselor:
1. There is nothing wrong with doing a little research first. I know that at this difficult time that it may seem like just one more hoop to jump through, but you want to make sure that the counselor you are relying on for their expertise and unbiased advice is someone you actually like and want to spend some time with. Check out your local phone book, do a search online, or you can even ask your divorce attorney for a recommendation.
Make a list of some of the criteria you may have for a counselor. For example, you may feel more comfortable talking to a counselor who is the same gender as you, take into consideration any religious affiliations, ask about payment plans or what type of insurance they accept, and whether or not they can prescribe medication? These are just a few of the questions you should ask when you are narrowing down your search for a counselor.
2. Once you’ve got a list of potential therapists make an appointment to meet with them. Check to see if they offer any type of a discount rate for the first session. Once you’ve had a chance to meet with one or two counselors you should have a better time choosing the right person to help you cope with all the emotions during this difficult time.
3. When you are meeting with your counselor make sure that the two of you have a game plan in mind. While it would be impossible to say that you’ll be completely able to move on by a certain deadline, it isn’t impossible to set smaller goals such as week to week goals.
4. It’s important that you are completely honest when talking with your counselor. They can’t help you face your issues and resolve them if the counselor doesn’t even know what those issues may be.
5. It’s important that you understand that you may take one or two steps ‘backwards’ for every step you take forward. This is all part of the process, don’t get discouraged. You should be able to see an overall forward, positive progression but you will likely encounter a few detours along the way and that is perfectly normal.
If your marriage has ended and you find that you are having trouble coping, you should enlist the help of divorce counseling. A qualified, objective professional can help steer your through this tumultuous time as quickly and easily as possible. Why let the process take longer than necessary?