Just had a marriage breakup, What Now?
The ending of a marriage is one of the great traumas in life. It can be second only to the death of a loved one when it comes to the emotional stress it causes. The good news is that there are some things you can do after a marriage breakup, that will help you get through the process a little more quickly, with less pain, and be able to move on without a ton of emotional baggage.
Here are some things you should consider:
1. Lean on your friends and family, that’s what they’re there for. They love you and will help you during this time, let them. There is no time limit to how long it will take you to get over the worst of your pain, so steer clear of anyone who tries to tell you it’s time for you to ‘get back out there’. They may be well meaning, but they aren’t helping.
2. Marriage Counselor: If you don’t seem to be making any progress at all after several months you should consider seeing a counselor. They can help you sort out all that you’re feeling and provide you with tools to dealing with it.
3. Use this ‘recovery time’ as a way to improve yourself. Not that there is anything wrong with you but we all have things we’d like to do or be. If you’ve always wanted to learn a foreign language, go for it. Join a gym, travel, etc. The point is that after a relationship falls apart, it’s a good time to reevaluate things and make any changes you’ve been meaning to make.
It’s not easy coping with a marriage breakup. Just keep your head held high and lean on the people in your life who love you. You can make it through and even though it may seem impossible, you’ll find happiness again.